Hi, it’s Owen here from Brick Pig Coaching. Today, I’m going to give you three key tips to keeping your wife satisfied. That’s right. We’re going there.

In this Video:
Tip #1 Women Want to Be Loved: 0:19
Tip #2 Your Wife/Partner Wants to Be Heard: 1:25
Tip #3 Women Want to Be Cared for: 2:33

Tip #1: Women Want to Be Loved
Tell me something you didn’t know. They want to be loved, but they want to hear it and they want to be shown it. Sometimes when you’ve been together in a relationship for a long time, you can forget to say it enough.
I work not just as a business coach but as a master life coach, as well, and the two kind of go hand-in-hand. That’s why I’m doing some of these videos that are a little bit more life coaching and relationship-based.

I know from dealing with many, many couples that the reality is one of the biggest complaints is “He doesn’t love me.” He does but he just presumes that she knew it. So you have to say it and make sure you say it enough – every day, a couple of times, it doesn’t hurt. Tell them that you love them.

As well, you have to show it. It won’t kill you to buy a bunch of flowers every now and then or maybe help out around the house or take her out to dinner. You know what I mean. You have to show it, as well. So you have to say it and you have to show it. Tip number one: they want to be loved.

Tip #2: Your Wife/Partner Wants to Be Heard
The thing is, us guys, we don’t usually talk as much. We’ll come home from work and grab a beer, maybe we want to lie down on the coach, and the last thing we want to be doing is talking about work. Generally – and I’m using generalizations here –not every woman but most women want to talk more and they usually unwind by talking things out.

We’ll tend to internalize things – they talk about the man cave – whereas women would like to externalize and talk about things. You don’t have to fix anything but you have to listen and not just wait while they’re speaking; you need to actually hear them.

Make them a cup of tea when you come home and just spend a little bit of time listening to what your wife or your partner has to say to you and spend some time listening. That’s your job, just to listen – not to fix anything but to listen – and then move on and maybe have a bit of quiet time for yourself, as well.

Tip #3: Women Want to Be Cared for
This isn’t in a weak kind of “cared for” way. They want to be cared for in a way that you’re allowing them to be the best they can be. It’s not a caring for them in a submissive way; it’s a caring for them in a building them up way.

For instance, my wife, she works in a very senior role in one of the major universities here in Melbourne, and part of me caring for her is allowing her to do that. If I said to Sarah that she had to be a stay-at-home mom – not that there’s anything wrong with stay-at-home moms; it’s fine but it’s just not the right shape for her – if she was doing that, she wouldn’t be a very happy lady. I can tell you, she enjoys the challenge of her career and she has done exceptionally well as a businesswoman in her own right. I show that I care for her while allowing her to do that to be that person.

It’s not that you’re wanting to change them in any way or wanting to manipulate them, but you want to care for them in a way that you find out who they are and care for them and being able to support them in who they are and being the best person that they can be.

I’ll tell you what, if there’s any woman listening, I’ll tell you the three things that guys want. Here it comes. This is what guys want. We need to be fed, we need to be appreciated, and provided we get sex two or three times a week, that’s pretty much it. Job done and that’s it.

But guys, back to the girls, we have to concentrate. You need to do these three things. I’m just going to recap. You need to love them, you need to say it, and you need to show it. They need to be heard. Listen to them. Don’t fix anything; just listen and make sure you’re hearing what they’re saying. Thirdly, care for them. Make sure your allow them to be the best they can be. Care for them. If you do these three things, you’re going to be together for a long, long time.

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